There are seven billion of us on the planet, and for all but a handful, we are the result of sex. Not just sex, but arousal, excitement and release.
It is the great tragedy of the human condition – and not just for the obvious reasons – that male orgasm is necessary to continue the species, and female satisfaction is one of those nice-to-have things, but we can do without it.
If women had to climax for the species to survive, then it goes without saying that women would have a bigger share of things. If female happiness were a crucial factor in survival then those physical and cultural traits that lead to female orgasm would naturally be selected for and survive against competition for other factors.
I think it would be a happier world, and again, not just for the obvious reasons. A world of more equality, a world were women were listened to, a world where violent uncaring men didn’t have so easy a time passing on their genes.
If both genders had to climax to reproduce, then I think that this would naturally lead to a world of equality, harmony, and happiness.
Our female sexuality is precious. So often religions or patriarchies or cultures downplay the role of women in sex. Some societies actually remove the clitoris – it’s called female circumcision, but it’s about cutting off that little pink pleasure bean and feeding it to the dogs – and in these societies women have a very low role. They do the work, bear the children, cook the food. They don’t lead, or conduct business, or get educated, or say or write things that others take note of.
Now, I don’t read or write erotica for any great lofty purpose. Pleasure and profit are high on my list. But I am conscious that some men, some religions, some politicians think that women aren’t important. Women shouldn’t enjoy sex. Women shouldn’t do certain things. Women shouldn’t have sex outside certain parameters.
To that. I say bullshit. Women enjoy good sex every bit as much as men do. Good sex isn’t confined to the marital bed, or the faithful, or those who vote a certain way. In fact, I’d say from my own personal experience that these things can be decided turn-offs. Is there anything more sexually boring than a man who thinks that a short fuck in the missionary position is the best that sex can get?
So to that person who sent me a rude note, I’m not going to say fuck you back. If you don’t like erotica, if you don’t like sexual fun, then bloody well don’t read it. You probably don’t like philosophy, or nuclear physics, or sociology either, and you probably don’t read those sort of books. But do you send rude notes to the people who write them?
I say, open your ears, open your mind, listen to what women are saying. Try to understand that the world is not the boxed up little male control field you have abstracted it into. It will be the best thing you can possibly do with your life.
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