How are you and your family, dear?

I now have well over 500 followers, mostly from the #WritingCommunity, which provides a supportive, informative, and inspiring environment.

I have received several Twitter DMs which come out of the blue, and begin along the lines of “Hello dear how are you doing today”. (Note the punctuation-optional format, way to get on board with a writer.)

If I respond, these accounts then try to steer the discussion to personal information, about myself, where I live, my friends and family.

Frankly, I find these messages creepy, offputting, and a very good way to get blocked and reported if they continue.

On the other hand, I have had many stimulating and delightful private conversations with other Twitter users, who talk about my writing, offer advice, mention their own writing efforts and are generally helpful and supportive. I relish that sort of contact. Talk to a writer about their writing, you’re likely to get your ears worn down to bloody stumps!

I received the most charming missive – a photo of a beautifully handwritten note – from someone who thought that having conversations on Twitter, blog comments, and via email was worthy of reward. That totally made my day. (For the record, it was about writing. With fountain pens.)

So I’m not going go cut off Twitter DMs entirely. I’m just going to be a bit wary of them. For information, a stranger beginning a conversation with this particular woman by calling her “dear” is a bloody good indicator of creepiness. Don’t do it. To me or any other woman you don’t know.

But, by all means, if you are a man, you have my blessing and encouragement to send DMs to other men you don’t know, opening with the words “dear”, “darling”, “honey”, “sweetie” etc. Let me know how that works out, will you?


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